I got to this book after getting to my first borderline therapy. I borrowed it from my psychoteraphist.
What I found really, but really relieving in this book was the chapter for the therapist that was trying to explain how it feels to have borderline. And while one can find a lot of crap on the Internet about how borderlines are even not humans (lol), have no emotions, cannot love, and all that dramatic stuff, what was in that chapter was just simply - how it feels. Not describing the crazy-shit symptoms, but the cause.
I found it so relieving.
Reading about how I feel inside. It was like: finally, someone understood me! Describing not the secondary feelings and thoughts, but the very initial ways in which emotions are experienced (which I believe causes all the rest of borderline symptoms). And they understood me without even ever meeting me. There were parts that sounded like just taken directly from my stream of thoughts. Mind blowing. I was taking photos of the pages and highlighting the parts that matched what the thoughts I had about my own inner world in the past.
This was especially important for me, because, as I wrote at the beginning of this blog, even if I get rid of every symptom of borderline, the way of experiencing emotions remain, and it keeps me feeling miserable. That book somehow confirmed that yes, this has also been studied, yes there are other people out there who know how I feel deep inside. It gave me hope. It made me feel like I am not completely crazy. It gave me the validation.