Instant attraction towards a newly met person. It does not have to feel like love from the beginning. But soon you find yourself thinking about this person too much, almost obsessing about them, craving their company, I guess you just fell in love? No you didn't. It's not love, it's pathology. As long as you are not a teenager, it's a trap. I wish there was more awareness about this phenomenon instead of omnipresent misinformation. Now I actually understand why Vipassana says that craving is equally bad to avoiding.
Such instant attraction means that two broken people found each other as their complement. This is how a toxic relationship is formed. No, not a dramatic stormy love story, let's call things by their real name: pathology.
Love needs time to develop. What shows too fast can't be love. "Drama" is just more socially accepted term for pathology.
If you ask why each and every relationship fails for you in the very same way, even though at the beginning it really felt like love at first sight - well here's your answer. And it's not your choosing pattern that is at fault, it's the fact that you're broken. A broken person cannot have a fulfilling relationship with another person. The healthy people and the broken people simply don't find each other attractive. I have asked so many people this question and I never got this correct answer. Actually most answers were only harmful, as they were based on misinformation. So here it is, the correct answer, I found it myself.
Let's also cut this bullshit idea of supporting and helping each other through the rough times of being broken. It doesn't work. Being alone is easier than being with someone and if to you it seems that the opposite is true, it's a sure sign that you're on one side of being broken.
If you can't help yourself no one will help you, if you damage yourself you can only damage others. All of it are just simple laws of nature. We need to stop teaching bullshit to our children. Regarding how much we know about ourselves, as humanity we're still in dark ages.