Books

The books that I found most helpful during my journey (since 2009):

"Mindsight" by Daniel Siegel
"The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook" by M. McKay, J. Wood, J. Brantley
"Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder" by Marsha Linehan (parts)
"The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle
"Passionate Marriage" by David Schnarch
"Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents (...)" by Lindsay C. Gibson
"Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" by Pete Walker
"In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People" by George K. Simon

I am also watching a lot of youtube channels of people that have gone a similar route of self recovery from various emotional diseases. I think that different channels speak better to different people, that's why I am not listing them here.