This is the trap that we all fall into, and it brings so much suffering to everyone involved. When someone does something we do not like, we tend to invent negative motives that explain the behavior of the other. We think to ourselves "I know why he di...

Okay so I had a revelation today while playing drums - in my imagination I have my father standing behind me and saying "okayish", "now you screwed up", "ah couldn't you play less boring?!", "it's crucial to keep the rhythm and you can't even do that",...