Showing all posts tagged #false-self:
A flashnow
Posted on May 6th, 2017
I recently have moments like this one, moments of glimpses of how the world actually is, of who I actually am. A fraction-of-a-second lasting realisation that world is not a hostile place and most people can be trusted and that life is worth living. A ...
Q1 Checkpoint
Posted on April 10th, 2017
Let's make a checkpoint, a summary of the progress I made since December 2016.
I have learned that:
I am a classical codependent and this causes so much stress in my life, prevents me from knowing who I am and what I want; I have been always strugglin...
The lifetime's discovery
Posted on April 6th, 2017
I was writing some time ago that the emotions are never wrong, but I made it explicit that I am writing only about basic emotions. And now I am thinking.. in fact no emotions are wrong. In fact one cannot tell that the other's perception of reality, wa...
Parents' shadows
Posted on April 2nd, 2017
It just occurred to me. Take everything your father made you think about yourself, comprehend this mental picture, grab it all with your mind, and then firmly tell yourself "that was an illusion", "that was not true", "this is NOT me". Imagine getting ...
Schema therapy - the beginning
Posted on March 29th, 2017
Okay so after a few sessions I just got the first verballisable impression of what it is about. DBT improves the behavioral patterns, and schema therapy tries to heal the faulty emotional response patterns that lie below the behavioral misadaptation. O...
'Borderline does not recover'
Posted on March 29th, 2017
I watched some more videos by the narcissist, Sam Vaknin, and he claims that "narcissists and borderlines do not recover". They can do the therapy to learn behavioral tricks in order to function better (this I agree with, that DBT potential is limited)...
Games I play
Posted on December 12th, 2016
I have been thinking about my self image a lot recently.
I was recently with some people and I imagined what would happen if my boyfriend showed up out of the blue. I was a bit tired which helped me in a realisation that before I could even react to s...
False self
Posted on December 5th, 2016
I have read relatively a lot about the mechanism of developing false self recently, which is normally happening to children as the effect of an abuse. But I could not get my head around it. When I thought about my "self", the term "false" seemed to go ...
