A colleague at work posted a link without reading the content, and other people in the chat, especially one person, immediately started making fun of him. But not in a friendly way, in a specifically putting down and irritated way.. I know this way, because I have been subjected to the same reactions when I made a similar mistake in my previous job. And this type of mistakes of not being focused enough and saying something stupid happens to me a lot.
But why do the other people react like this? Why is it not enough to say "hey read the text below"? Why people either laugh or are irritated? The strength of their reaction is inadequate to the situation. Is it the outer critic that gets activated? I think so. And I believe it is not all the people who have this reaction, and the ones who do react like that towards many people.
I could feel my colleague's inner critic response to the ridiculing comments on the chat. The extreme "down" feeling.. and what always amazes me in his case is how he just waits it over. Very rarely would he do anything till he feels better again.
And another amazing thing that happened right after that, that person who wrote the ridiculing comment came into the room. He looked at the colleague who made the mistake with a guilty dog look, the other smiled, the first one smiled too, looked at me, and left.
On the first sight nothing special happened, on a deeper level I that was something amazing.