I realized I often make self deprecating jokes about myself, and then about the group I'm part of. My goal of such joking is to say something so bizarre that it will force me or us to distance ourselves from the situation - which I find a great way of taking a breath during a busy or stressful day. While joking about myself is not yet so dangerous, joking about the group I'm in really puts me into trouble! Especially when the recipient of the joke sees it as me separating myself from the group and putting the group down in order to feel better about myself. Wow. Now I get why some people don't like me so much.

Recently I said "let's just have a meeting here, no one is working anyway" in the middle of the office space, and a colleague reacted really negatively. And then because recently, thanks to reading about Asperger's syndrome, I understood that very often what is obvious to one single person may not be obvious to majority of other people I said "that was a joke", and that colleague was like "What? Really?!" and started to smile. What? Really?! They thought I'm serious?! Wow. I was laughing I thought it's enough of a hint. What if they thought I'm laughing at other people? Wow. I thought some people just don't like when I'm in a good mood and making jokes but seems that the reason of their reaction is entirely different. And I guess once they got this idea about me, then every consecutive joke they will interpret in that manner, and he things that I try to make sound bizarre don't sound bizarre to them anymore as they think I'm bizarre. And yes that's the impression I was getting, that the more I try to loosen the atmosphere by making jokes the more negative or even aggressive they get towards me.

Okay, it's not all the people who react so, but significant number of them.