Okay, let's get to the complicated world of human relationships. I have noticed this pattern in my life with my friends:

me: I feel down, because of X
friend: why are you like this? you should not feel like this!
me: I don't know I am sorry
friend: you are such a bad/self-centered/selfish/inconsiderate/dramatic/overreacting/strange/... person that you feel down because of X

What the hell? Is it not the point of friendship to help each other out not push back down? Why do people jump to defining me because of the vulnerability I shared with them? Why they do not even think of appreciating it what I just did, that I have opened up?
It this the codependent friendship pattern, really? I choose people for friends who cannot validate me? It is so scary to think that all the people who do it to me I would have to lose if I want to get out of codependency. Which is almost everyone.