I meet a new person and only later I realise that they act in a way that really annoys or hurts me. Or more specifically, I meet a person who's at the same dead end point that I've been in the past.
And yes, my first reaction was frustration: why does life bring me back the same old shit wrapped in a shiny paper?
But then I've asked myself: what lesson does this person have for me at this stage of my life? It's amazing how everything follows an order, how you meet the right people in the right time, where the "right" does not necessarily mean no pain.
I think what happened when I met that particular person I got an understanding why people would react to me like they would in the past. So yes, life brought me the answer to the question I've been asking so many times before. I also have more understanding for that person than I would when I wasn't even aware of my own issues. I have already bridged the inability to have compassion for my past little self: I first had compassion for my ex's little self, then for all traumatized little selves, and finally for myself. So maybe meeting this person has a similar purpose: finding compassion for my past self.
And finally, maybe that person has a reason to cling to me, to find their way out of their being stuck? And yes learning does not happen without pain.